As a child grows, mothers are consistently present, particularly when it involves offering support.
unsolicited advice
.
At that moment, it might appear as though
your mother
doesn’t have a clue what she’s discussing. As a parent now myself, I understand
feel
My kids often roll their eyes as soon as I start talking.
Not long ago, someone requested that I identify something my mother was correct about. This prompted reflections on my childhood, adolescence, transitioning into adulthood, and eventually reaching middle age.
mother myself
, and the words from my mother that carry the most significance for me today.
READ MORE:
Sam Kerr and her high-profile partner reveal the arrival of their baby boy.
As I pondered over the counsel she imparted, one aspect became particularly noticeable.
However, before we delve into that, allow me to share with you some of the invaluable insights I’ve gained. These pieces of advice came either directly in person or through countless telephone conversations throughout the years, all provided by the woman who has consistently stood beside me.
You can’t please everyone
If only I had truly paid attention to this and absorbed it earlier, it could have spared me years of anxiety. Recently, I realized that I’m a people-pleaser.
However, feeling compelled to satisfy everybody continuously is not only draining both physically and mentally but is also entirely unachievable. Essentially, you’re positioning yourself for failure.
Why I ignored this bit of counsel from my mother, which is now echoing strongly in my ears, remains a mystery.
However, she was correct. You genuinely can’t satisfy everybody, and attempting to do so would drive you mad.
READ MORE:
A young boy steals the show from the royals at Westminster Abbey.
For Mother’s Day this year, I’ve decided to consciously try not caring as much about others’ opinions of me.
It’s pointless to shed tears over spilled milk.
We’ve all come across this before. When we were young, it was simple to take things too literally.
However, as you age, you come to understand that it’s not really about a glass of milk; rather, it’s about being concerned with things that have already transpired.
I tend to be deeply immersed in nostalgia, constantly revisiting and rearranging events and discussions well after they occur.
However, we all understand that dwelling in the past is detrimental to our well-being.
I’ve come across the saying that clinging to anger and resentment is akin to swallowing poison with the hope that another person will perish.
Individuals who focus on the here and now tend to be more content and have lower levels of anxiety and stress compared to those endlessly dwelling on an unchangeable history.
Whatever happens, happens.
My first recollection from childhood involves my mom singing. She possessed a melodious voice and could frequently be heard singing around the home.
One of her favorites was a song by Doris Day titled
Que Sera, Sera (Whatever Will Be, Will Be)
.
“When I was merely a small child, I asked my mother what I would become,” she used to sing.
Am I going to be beautiful? Am I going to be wealthy? This is what she told me.
Whatever will be, will be, Que sera, seria; We can’t foresee what lies ahead.
No matter what life brings, that’s how things will unfold.
I recall asking her for clarification, and she replied: Since we can’t predict future events, fretting over them serves no purpose.
Although living in the past isn’t ideal, dwelling excessively on the future—particularly if you’re fretting over potential negative events—isn’t beneficial for your psychological well-being.
For this Mother’s Day, I’ve decided to embrace the moment, at least for today.
Fine things await those who persevere.
I lost count of how often my mother would say this during my upbringing, particularly when I was navigating my professional path and facing challenges while attempting to have our first child.
Whenever I faced disappointment, she was always there to offer these exact words of comfort.
To get your regular fix from Sazua.com,
sign up for our newsletter below
.
Regardless of whether she genuinely thought that the things I desperately hoped for would ultimately fall into place, or if she was merely saying what she knew I wanted to hear, her words provided me with badly needed encouragement.
Now, whenever my kids get distressed because things aren’t going their way, I find myself echoing the very same phrases that my mom used to say.
This leads me to the single piece of advice from my mother that resonated with me the most. It’s the source of great solace for me and what I pass down to my kids as well.
Everything will sort itself out in the end.
Each of us has experienced times when things didn’t go as planned.
It could be large or tiny, and may result in slight disappointment or utter devastation, varying based on the situation.
At times during such moments, it might seem as though circumstances will never work out in our favor.
It’s simple to see ourselves as victims—whether it’s due to poor fortune, situations beyond our control, others’ actions, or even our own behavior for those at a more advanced stage.
Carrying hope, whether we dig it up from deep inside or receive it as a pep talk from our mother, often proves strong enough to help us stand back up and face tomorrow’s battles.
When confronted with life’s challenges, it’s a saying, particularly when shared by our mothers, that can help us navigate even our most trying times.
My son now includes an addition to the saying “In the end, everything will sort itself out.”
“And if things haven’t gone as planned, it’s not the end,” he will remark.
These phrases have supported him during his darkest hours.
Regardless of whether your mother is still with us or not, I trust you’ll find a moment today to reflect upon and cherish her wise sayings. Consider how these teachings molded you and how you continue to apply them in your daily existence.
Think of these not merely as expressions, but as a comforting embrace from your Mum.
And I trust they will provide solace every time you require it the most.
JOIN US ON WHATSAPP HERE
: Stay across all the latest in celebrity, lifestyle and opinion via our WhatsApp channel. No comments, no algorithm and nobody can see your private details.
